Dear 100 Hour Board,
I find myself in a bit of a conundrum. I've been hanging out with this guy for almost two months now. He has several qualities that I wouldn't want in a future spouse so I've decided not to date him. I've told him as much and he's fine just being friends. However he has a lot of qualities that I find attractive and I would date him if I didn't have to consider the future. I think he is interested in me but is waiting for me to change my mind about dating him. So I find myself torn between wanting to date him and knowing that dating him would be a bad idea. The more we hang out the more I'm worried about slipping up and getting physical with him even though I know it'll only end in heartbreak. It would probably be easiest to just stop hanging out with him, but he's going through a rough time right now and could really use a friend. I don't want anyone's feelings to get hurt but there doesn't seem to be any way around it. Do you have any advice?
It's cliche, but this is the kind of situation where it can really help to pray about it.
I'm with Kirito. Pray about it. In most cases, I would say God won't tell you "This is who you should marry" but if it's important to you it's important to God. He can help you think through things and make decisions. I did this a lot in dating situations and I still do it for important decisions. I sort of list my pros and cons to God and then ask His opinion on things. I don't always get a response to every question I ask or for every opinion I ask for but I generally end up making a decision and going with it. Things have worked out very well for me when I involve God in the decision process.