Dear 100 Hour Board,
Searching for a place to move destroys my emotional health, so the last time I moved, I planned to stay put for at least two years. However, less than a year later, I find myself in a situation where I need to move yet again so I can be closer to my job and my social group. However, finding housing that meets my required criteria is proving to be very, very difficult!
How do you combat the home-searching blues while beginning a months-long search for The Right Place?
Sounds like your "searching for a house and everything is on fire" journey has just begun. That's a draining place to be, and as someone who has moved pretty frequently as a student, I understand you. It is not fun in any sense of the word, but taking care of yourself seems like it goes a long way.
One thing that could help is keeping things in perspective. Looking for a home isn't fun, but it's survivable. Eventually, you'll probably find a place that meets your criteria. It's hard to tell from your question if you're looking for a house or a shared/private room (ie: living with roommates), but the latter pops up fairly frequently. People's plans always change: roommates get married, job offers come up, and so on. Even with houses, places come up for rent somewhat often due to unexpected circumstances.
Maybe you won't be able to find a place that meets your criteria for a while. For the time being, you still have a home, you have a job, and you have a social group. The commute may be inconvenient, but you have all you need to carry on the search for a while (provided your job is enough to pay for the commute). Worst case scenario, you can't find a place as soon as would be preferred. This isn't a fun or stable feeling, but you can get through it. Until then, make sure you're taking time to relax and remember that the situation is temporary.
Also, if you do expect the search to be months-long, it might be helpful to take a break for a day and let yourself focus on other things. With something as stressful as house finding, the pressure to find a good place can easily consume you. Taking one day a week or maybe a few hours a day (if you feel it's necessary to check listings every day) where you think about other things besides the job search could help prevent it from becoming overwhelming.
Hopefully this helps at least a little bit, and good luck with the home search! If any of the readers have more experience with this feeling, pleaes leave a correction. You can do this!