"Reversal of fortune? No way. Reversal of skill." -Uffish Thought
Question #89397 posted on 04/19/2017 8:08 p.m.
Q:

Dear 100 Hour Board,

A couple months ago I got an amazing Opportunity, and I was so, so excited. But about a month ago, it just felt like too much. The Opportunity hadn't started yet, and I was struggling with classes and grades and time, and this Opportunity was going to require even more time and energy. I looked at my options (sticking with Opportunity or dropping Opportunity), weighed the pros and the cons, and prayed, but I had a hard time being very sure about an answer because both options sounded awful. I finally chose the less stressful option and dropped the Opportunity.

And just as I expected, it's awful. I don't know if I made the right decision, and who knows, maybe it would have been worse to stick with it. But I still regret it so much, and sometimes I honestly feel like I would go back and change my decision if I could. And I know that in the eternal scheme of things it's insignificant (probably insignificant in my mortal life too), but I still hate feeling like I'm going to spend the rest of my life regretting this.

How can I move on and feel better?

-Me

A:

Dear me,

Without any context of what the opportunity was, I can't give very detailed advice, but general advice is good too.

You can't spend the rest of your life thinking about one missed opportunity. That is going to be destructive. What you need to do is find another opportunity that you can take advantage of. I'm what some people call an optimist and so I think opportunities are all around you. I don't think that just because you missed this one opportunity that you can't have a positive outcome. Keep praying and doing all of the "small" commandments (scripture study, temple attendance, etc.) and try to focus your mind on looking for other opportunities. I'm sure there are going to be other opportunities that will come your way!

If you keep focusing your attention on this one lost opportunity, then you will keep regretting it. You need to move on to greener pastures!

Happy opportunity taking!

-Sunday Night Banter

A:

Dear Reader,

In economics, we have things called "sunk costs". Basically, a sunk cost is whatever has already been paid (in your, case, the cost of missing an opportunity). Because it's impossible to change the past, that cost shouldn't influence your current or future decisions. Translated into less economic terms, because there is nothing you can do in the present to change the past, don't continue to fret over it. Make the best of whatever opportunities you have right now. And perhaps learn something from this experience.

While there may not be opportunities like the one you missed, there will still be many, many once-in-a-lifetime opportunities that you'll be able to take. Take heart in the fact you can still make the most with what you've got.

~Anathema