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Question #89352 posted on 04/16/2017 3:12 p.m.
Q:

Dear 100 Hour Board,

I don't know how I got to this point in my life but I've realized that I'm afraid of hard work. If I don't want to do something I will only put in the minimum effort to get it done. I have always jokingly called myself lazy and brushed it off as not really true because I graduated from college and have a job, how lazy can I really be? But when I'm being honest with myself I know that I really am lazy. I only work because society expects me to and I get bored without any responsibilities but when I'm at work I constantly think about when I can go home and relax. The more I think about it the more I hate myself. I don't want to be a lazy person but I'm also terrified that the alternative means learning to work hard. I know something must be wrong with me to feel this way, so what can I do to change it?

-Disgusted

A:

Dear Reader,

My first piece of advice for you would be to not classify yourself as a lazy person. Rather, try to frame the problem as a work in progress; i.e. you may not be as hard working as you would like to be right now, but this isn't a permanent trait, and you are capable of becoming a person who's not lazy.

Second, there is nothing wrong with you. Many, many people wish they were at home relaxing when they're at their job. If no one ever felt that way, people wouldn't need to be paid to work. Furthermore, it's not a bad thing to not be working all the time. Sometimes the minimum amount required is good enough, and that's okay. It doesn't make you a bad person to not be putting 100% into everything you do (if you did try to do that, you'd get burned out pretty quickly).

I relate to your fear of working hard. I feel similar fears when it comes to filling out applications for things. There's a part of me that says it's totally doable, and I won't lose anything by filling out this job/financial aide application, but the rest of me is petrified, and super stressed out at the mere thought of even trying to apply for things. However, these are fears that can be overcome. In your case, I'd focus on just taking small steps to working at the level you want to be at. Perhaps take up a hobby that requires some work (which is pretty much every hobby ever). Don't beat yourself up if you don't work as hard at it as you would like, but don't give up either.

It's okay to have a hard time working hard, but just remember you can change, though doing so will probably require confronting your fears about working hard first.

~Anathema

A:

Dear you,

I feel lazy a lot of the time. I've found that I simply have limited energy, and that working saps that energy. And really, there's nothing wrong with that. If I were more of a workaholic, I wouldn't be who I am.

If you want to change your ability to work, remember that it's kind of like building a muscle. You won't change overnight. You need a plan and a way to train. And find ways to be pleased with your progress rather than worried about how much farther you want to go.

For the most part, society is run by a bunch of people that don't need to sleep. Not everyone can be like that. So don't stress that there's things in your life more important than work.

-Kirito