Dear 100 Hour Board,
How do you move on? Even when you know it's the right thing to do?
You have to let me in. I'll help make sense of things, and then you can move forward.
I think you need to give yourself time, and recognize that feelings of heartbreak are okay, and even natural. Feeling heartbreak means that what you felt mattered to you, and while it doesn't seem like it right now, that ability to love and feel is actually a great gift. I know it hurts, but it will also pass. It may feel like an eternity right now, but my personal experience has taught me that the midnight of dark emotion always gives way to a dawn of new light.
Have patience with yourself, my friend, and in the meantime, treasure the little moments of peace, beauty, and Godlike love you may experience. If you don't feel like you ever experience any of those things, search for them. Pray to be enveloped and actually feel the great love God has for you.
As always, if you would like to talk more, or even just have someone listen, you can reach me at firstname.lastname@example.org.
You sound like a really good, kind person. Whatever your situation, I hope you find peace on this. Letting go is hard, and it hurts, but it does heal. It takes time.
The writers above give excellent advice, and to their thoughts, I just want to add a few things. I mentioned above that it takes time--allow yourself time to come to terms with this, because it's not going to be easy for a while. If you feel hurt, or you miss this person, or you're angry at yourself for feeling this way towards them, just experience it. If you don't do it now, you'll still have these feelings but they'll just be bottled up inside and continue to hurt you.
Moving on is never easy, especially when you care about this person. Much of what I want to say is echoing Anathema's thoughts. Without knowing the situation, I can't really say a lot, but you probably have good memories with them and care about them a lot. This can be painful, but it also means that you were lucky enough to have someone who made you feel that way in your life, and someone who saying goodbye to could make you feel so much pain. If you hadn't, it wouldn't hurt so much right now moving on. So it might help you to reflect about how lucky you were to have that happiness in your life, even if it might be over now.
Saying goodbye to this person does involve some loss, but you'll have happiness in your life again. You'll have experiences, relationships, and moments that will bring you joy just as much as this moment brings you pain. This loss is worthy of grieving over. But the beauty of life is that you'll meet others who will bring you happiness, too. So know that while pain is a natural part of this process, you can have hope that the future will still be bright.
How and when this will heal can't really be said because the process of letting go is different for every situation. In time, you might be able to completely let go of this relationship and look back on it without any sadness. Or, like a scar, you may always feel some loss when you reflect. But I think maybe feeling joy for the time you shared can help the process of moving on a little, knowing that it's the right thing to do. It might also be helpful to take care of yourself while you're letting go of this person and focus on self-improvement so that you don't let go of yourself/your needs in the grieving process.
I don't know if this helps you at all but hopefully it gives you some ideas on how to process this. I really am sorry to hear that you're going through this. This is a feeling I've experienced before, and sometimes I still feel sad about it and miss them. It does get easier, though, and you're a good person for wanting to do the right thing. If you need to talk, feel free to send an email (email@example.com) and I'll support you however I can. But you can do this. You'll be okay.