Dear 100 Hour Board,
What do you do to recharge when you are absolutely out of emotional energy?
-My Name Here
Dear Museum of Natural History,
As someone who is regularly out of emotional energy, I feel very qualified to answer this question.
My first answer would definitely be music. When I'm out of energy, music really helps me to recharge. Music deeply affects me emotionally, so upbeat and encouraging music really helps me out.
Naps are good. Also, memes. Sometimes also I read random Wikipedia articles, or listen to TED talks, or something else inspiring.
Depending on the day and how I'm feeling, either spending time alone, or having a low-pressure conversation with someone will help. It all depends on how I need to recharge.
That's about all, I think. Just taking any kind of break really helps.
Keep it real,
As an introvert, being around people drains my emotional energy, so in order to recharge I need to spend time alone. Sometimes I can accomplish this by just sitting on my bed and avoiding my roommates, and other times I have a need to be actually physically alone, knowing that no one will bother or interrupt me. When this happened in Provo, I would drive up into the mountains and just walk around for a while.
I also found it helpful to do something that represented a break in my normal routine, because that deviation helps me better face the monotony that often defined my college life. I might walk around Provo, listening to music, or go try a new restaurant by myself. Taking a nap or just sitting quietly in the dark was also helpful for me.
But in any case, the point was to get away from anyone who might further drain my energy and to do something to refresh myself, whether that be with food or with exercise.
I recently picked up Pokémon GO again. That's been great for de-stressing.
I am not very good at taking care of my emotional health, and so most often just push myself harder to get things done when I'm emotionally depleted. However, when I do actually try take of myself, this is what I do:
- Walking. Particularly walking very fast. There's a particular park near-ish to my apartment that I especially love walking to. Once I'm there, I'll just sit on a bench, and contemplate life, while occasionally reading some poetry from my phone.
- Reading one of my favorite books while sipping hot chocolate in bed.
- Going to the temple. This is actually one of the very best things to help me emotionally recharge.
- Hiking. While I don't do this nearly often enough (life without a car can be hard sometimes), it always makes me feel better about life.
- Really doing anything outside, even if it's merely being still, and drinking in the beautiful view of the mountains.
- Sleeping in. Oftentimes, when I have a busy week, I'll get up around 5 am every morning in an attempt to accomplish the many things I have to do, and so sleeping in has become a symbol of total relaxation and not having to worry about different things for me.
- Calling a friend. I don't have many close friends, and so this mainly pertains to either Alta or one other very good friend currently at BYU-I. Depending on how upset/emotionally drained I am, this also may involve a fair amount of cathartic (/emotionally frenzied and completely depressed) sobbing.
- Eating lightly salted popcorn and watching a good movie.
- Looking out a window at (or actually being in) a huge storm with crashing thunder, flashing lightning, and of course with everything being permeated with the smell of rain. Obviously this isn't something I can control (I mean, I guess I could just roam the country, chasing storms), but it always makes me feel very tranquil.
- Writing emails to myself. Somehow just writing out my current frustrations, and life problems/worries is very helpful for me.
- Writing poetry. Sometimes a particular rhythm of words cut down to fit simple verse is better able to express my current state of emotion than the jumble of words requisite to form sentences.
- Listening to music. There are certain songs that just seem to speak to my soul, and listening to them always brings a special kind of peace. I almost feel like I'm able to crawl inside a song and live in it.
- Singing. It relaxes me, and I love it.
- Doing something with my family.
- Cooking. I like to experiment with different ingredients and see how delicious I can make my creations be (some of which definitely turn out better than others).
- Dancing. When I'm trying to emotionally recharge, this normally entails jamming out to my favorite songs while cooking (I don't really know why, but whenever I start dancing by myself in my apartment, it's always while I'm cooking).
- Doing math. I know this sounds strange, but sometimes just working through a series of problems (though problems with series actually aren't always my favorite) helps me to focus, and calms me.
- Exploring someplace new, even if it's as simple as a section of the library I don't frequent.
- Taking advantage of BYU's free counseling services, and talking with my therapist.
Wishing you all the best,
I take a nap, eat chocolate, or watch Netflix.
I think I've mentioned watching cooking shows when sad on the Board before. Growing up, my family would watch the Cooking Channel together and that was kind of our "thing," and nostalgia comforts me (maybe too much). When I'm emotionally drained, I like doing things that are both mindless and pleasant, so I'll watch them sometimes if I'm drained enough to not do anything. I also like walking when drained but I don't like walking alone, so sometimes I ask my mom if she wants to go walking in Midway or somewhere quiet. If I'm overwhelmed but still feel like I can handle doing things, then I'll study, write, or read a book in silence. Perk of having a private room is that alone time isn't too hard to find. I'm gonna miss that a lot next semester.
Hope you're doing okay, friend. My answer was pretty personal so if you're struggling with this, here are a few resources about what might help you.