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Question #89091 posted on 03/06/2017 8:56 a.m.

Dear 100 Hour Board,

All of my coworkers drink often and I want to spend time with them and be friends and stuff. How do I drink without drinking?



Dear person,

If it was an after-work-going-out-for-a-couple-of-drinks-each thing and I wanted to go felt like they were pressuring me, I'd probably do something funny like ask for water on the rocks. Something humorous but firm. People should be willing to respect that.

If it's the kind of event where people are getting really drunk, I'm not sure. I have never been a fan of people when they are drunk for reasons so I probably wouldn't bother. But if you don't mind it and you want to make it work I think Luciana's advice is pretty good.



Dear Dallin,

Volunteer to be the designated driver.

I'm in the same situation as you, and so far that has been my solution. If that isn't a valid option, then see if you can find someone else who isn't drinking, and spend most of your time with them. That works for me too.

If it's any consolation, seeing how your friends and coworkers act when they're drunk is surprisingly entertaining.



posted on 03/06/2017 5:02 p.m.
Also, non alcoholic drinks (mocktails, Virgin versions of whatever sounds tasty, the classic Shirley Temple, etc) are a thing, and bars will serve them. Learn a few good ones and their ingredients, just in case the bartender didn't know them by name, and have fun. For instance, Shirley Temples, Boston Coolers, and Cinderellas are all delicious and alcohol free.

posted on 03/07/2017 1:35 p.m.
If you tell the bartender you're the designated driver, you can sometimes get free non-alcoholic drinks! When I was in the army, I was perennially the DD.

posted on 03/07/2017 1:36 p.m.
I work in a culture with heavy drinking. I've found two things work best.
1. Don't be afraid to tell people that you don't drink for religious reasons. Be humble and non-judgmental about it but I've found that people respect that much more than they respect and honor something like "I don't really feel like drinking tonight."
2. It's a lot easier to navigate the evening if you have a drink in your hand. Soda is often free from the bar. If not, cranberry juice or virgin drinks are always fun as well, but fancy virgin drinks are often as expensive as alcoholic drinks.

LDS in San Francisco