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Question #80851 posted on 01/30/2015 4:32 p.m.
Q:

Dear 100 Hour Board,

Are nice notes really that nice?

~Nicely Nicely

A:

Dear Nicely,

When people are mature about it, then absolutely! I love nice notes—words of affirmation are totally my thing.

But when people use it for mean jokes, not cool. Our ward had to start banning anonymous nice notes because some of them were... not so nice.

-Owlet

A:

Dear Nice,

As I was recently called as a Ward Prayer Coordinator, I have been passing out nice notes every Sunday evening, and let me tell you, I am pretty sure the nice note disparity in my ward is just as bad or worse than the global income disparity.

Okay that's an exaggeration, but still.  Every week I pass out nice notes, and every week the same apartments get a kajillion notes while other apartments consistently get zero.  It makes me agree with the opinions of this reader, who basically states that nice notes tend to make popular kids feel more popular, while the unpopular kids just feel even worse about themselves.

However, I also agree with Tally's answer to that same question where she says that that's just kind of how life is.  I guess we are no closer to nice note equality than we are to global equality, and that's okay.

Still, I think that YOU can do something today! Next time I conduct ward prayer, I am planning on challenging the members of my ward to write at least one nice note to someone who they have never written one to before.  I shall issue the same challenge to you, dear readers. Instead of writing your fifth nice note to that girl (or boy) that everybody in the ward wants to date, write a nice note to the kid that probably doesn't get a lot of them.

Let's make nice notes even more... nice.

Love,

Vienna

A:

Dear N^2,

A certain ex-roommate of mine was in the habit of writing sarcastic "mean notes" to his roommates. To this day, they are the best nice notes I have received.

Be careful who you write them to, though. It takes a certain sense of humor to appreciate them.

-yayfulness

A:

Dear Nice, 

My roommate sends out a flurry of nice notes each week, always to different people. 

Too bad they're almost always just hand-drawn butts. 

-Concorde