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Question #35246 posted on 04/14/2007 3:01 a.m.

Dear 100 Hour Board,

Why is it, that there seems to be a taboo here in Provo against girls asking guys on dates? It seems to be much more prevalent here then in other states I've lived.

- Cub Scout Intern

A: Dear CSI,

I don't think it's really taboo, it's just looked upon as something that's rarely successful. I had roommates who did it all the time, and while they had fun, it never seemed to lead to a second date. It just seems more accepted around here for the guy to strap on a pair and do it himself.

A: Dear CSI,

The culture in Provo is very socially conservative, and dating is taken very seriously. Consequently, there is a strong predisposition against any behavior which might upset the perceived delicate balance between the sexes.

- Katya
A: Dear... um, Intern,

I'm not terribly proud of this, but when girls ask me out, it usually does strike me as a little bit odd.

I'm not sure why, and I know it's unfair, but that's just how I am, I suppose.

Oh, but I should add a quick disclaimer that a girl asking me out does not ruin her chances with me. Often, if she had chances with me, I would have asked her out already, but that's beside the point.

A: Dear CSI,

I second Katya's observation that LDS culture is very socially conservative, and BYU/Provo is the epitome of LDS culture. Personally, I don't have any strong opinions on it one way or the other; that's probably because it's not very common. Discounting girls I had already asked out, I've only been asked out by a girl once. Also, like Hobbes noted, I tend to be very proactive in asking out girls I'm interested in. I wouldn't mind if they did the asking, though.

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