Dear Matt Walsh could really use a reality check too,
Something about that article bugged me on a very fundamental level, but I couldn't put a finger on it until I read some comments on two responses on the blog "What Is Matt Walsh Wrong About Today?" I still don't feel fully capable of articulating what I mean, so I'll let the comments do that themselves.
As someone who used to struggle with depression, whenever I heard anything that said things like “it’s just a choice, you have to choose joy”, it would make me feel all the more like I should commit suicide because clearly everyone ELSE who is depressed can just choose joy, and since I seem unable to do that, I am especially broken and unworthy of taking up space because I’m so weak and pathetic, and me ending my life is a BLESSING to those around me so they don’t have to put up with someone who can’t just “choose” to be happy. This is how depressed people think. It’s not logical, but it is dangerous.
I don’t believe that suicide is ever something we want to do… sometimes it feels like our only choice, because rather than facing every day with such pain we feel it would easier for us and for others to get it over with, so that we could cause no more grief to them… What would be done would be done. Of course this logic is incredibly flawed… but when you believe all you do is cause misery the idea is that they’ll be able to live a better life after you’re gone.
The problem with hoping people will reach out for help is that sometimes, we don’t want it. I’ve had the absolute **** kicked out of me by depression so many times, I’ve lost count. I’ve taken my meds and done my therapy and done everything right and it still comes and kicks my *** AND THERE’S NOTHING I CAN DO TO STOP IT. That’s the nature of this awful, terrible beast. And there are times where I just want that to be over. People talk about suicide being a selfish act, and I’m not saying that it isn’t, but at what point is it selfish to want or me to continue to hold on when the life I live is filled with pain and sorrow and struggle?
Suicidal people also generally TOTALLY BELIEVE they are doing the right thing by their friends and family. They believe they are a burden, they are a problem, etc. It sounds cliche, but as someone who has been there, it’s as real as the green grass and the blue sky sometimes. When I feel this way I’m not being weak, I’m not seeking attention (in fact I’ll usually go to great lengths to hide it), I’m not being dramatic just for fun… Whatever it is is out of my control, and I HATE that.
These comments come from post the first and post the second. I'd add my own feelings, but it would be redundant. Instead I will just say that as someone who has struggled with at times severe and dangerous depression, I can agree wholeheartedly with what I've quoted here.
I wouldn't say this normally, because normally I don't think it's a fair comparison, but today I feel like Matt Walsh is playing the role of Westboro Baptist Church, using someone else's tragedy to further his agenda and line his pockets with ad revenue. I think the best thing we can do is simply ignore him. The suicide of Robin Williams is a tragedy. The other less-well-known but no less painful suicides that happen every day are also tragedies. Anything that detracts from the tragedy and fails to provide a real solution is irrelevant.