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Wednesday, May 4, 2016
Question #86255 posted on 05/04/2016 10:41 p.m.
Q:

Dear 100 Hour Board,

I have a confession. I am very conservative but I had a long talk with my brother and he is voting for Bernie Sanders. I was appalled at first. A socialist?! But my brother has actually convinced me! Bernie isn't a socialist he is a democratic socialist he believes nobody is better than another person. Corporations aren't better than poor people.
We both are still anti-abortion (well they should be very very difficult to obtain) and gay marriage (but I don't believe they should be discriminated against), but Bernie's plans make sense to us. I read through https://berniesanders.com/issues/ and it all makes sense to me and for my values.

-Free public education for everyone. The banks pay lower interest on loans than we are offering our students. Isn't a more educated populous better for all?
-Raising the minimum wage
-Paid family leave like other wealthy countries
-Equal pay
-Housing protections
-helping minorities
-Single payer healthcare system

I think these things would really make our country better! We both want Bernie to win the primaries and want him to win the overall election. But how do we approach our friends and family members about it? We have both been very vocal Republicans in the past and we still hold many Republican values but we don't like the Republicans in this race and Bernie just makes sense. In the past Reagan was a democrat but switched Republican.

In the past I have had conversations with friends about liberals who are Mormons and we all have said things about them not having a strong testimony. And how being a liberal or a democrat goes against the church. I don't consider myself liberal or a democrat. I would NEVER vote for Hillary Clinton. But with Bernie Sanders I see family values, protecting the poor, valuing education, helping others, the disappearing middle class.

I really want more people to support him and come to the bright side but I don't know how to do this and support him without them judging me or thinking less of me. My brother has only shared this view with me and we're trying to figure out how to broach it with our other family members and friends. I know they will still love me but I think they will think less of me. But hopefully they will feel the bern like I have as well?

-Republicans for Bernie?

P.S. I like Kasich too but I don't think he could ever win against Hillary

A:

Dear you,

Unfortunately, I don't think you'll be able to completely avoid attitudes about liberals being less faithful, although your question is a great example of why it's a bad idea to judge the motivations behind people's political leanings.

Ultimately, I think that the best thing you can do is to follow the pattern of how your brother talked to you about it. Avoid name-calling or confrontation, maintain a calm tone, and make sure that people are also aware that your beliefs (like those of most people) don't completely follow any one candidate. You could emphasize family values (like paid leave) to social conservatives and the idea of breaking up big banks and separating money from politics to fiscal conservatives.

Sometimes, you need to pick your battles. Some family members or friends might not be worth discussing this with, and that's okay.

Best of luck, and kudos for being honest with yourself about which issues are important to you. It's hard to look at candidates from outside your party and go against what family or friends may think.

-Zedability


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Question #86318 posted on 05/04/2016 10:41 p.m.
Q:

Dear 100 Hour Board,

This article says, "According to CNN, a new report from the CDC has found a 45% increase in the suicide rate among women between 1999 and 2014, almost three times more than the increase among men." Why has women suicide rate gone up?

-Red Skeleton

A:

Dear you,

The CNN article linked to in the article you shared says,

The reasons for the increase in the suicide rate over the past 15 years are many and complex. Whereas there was a big push between the late 1980s and 1990s for health care providers to identify and treat depression and other mental health problems, some of this progress was undone in recent years because of concerns that antidepressants could increase suicide risk, Moutier said. These concerns were driven by controversy around the Food and Drug Administration's decision to give these medications a black box warning about the suicide risk in children, she added.
 
The FDA cautioned at the time that children should still be treated for depression but monitored for any signs of suicidal thoughts.
 
Another contributor to the rise in suicide rates could be the growing number of overdose deaths from opiate painkillers, which are considered suicide if a medical examiner or coroner determines that they were probably intentional, Moutier said. "Access to lethal means is one of the most significant risk factors for an individual to die by suicide," she added.
 
Yet another factor could have been the economic downturn in the late 2000s, Holland said.
These reasons are general, rather than being specific to women, but the article mentions that because fewer women commit suicide than men, it takes fewer additional suicides to drive the overall rate up. Also, because access to lethal methods is an important factor, it could have something to do with the fact that women typically commit suicide by poisoning. This seems like it would lend itself well to the increase in access to opiate painkillers. Meanwhile, access to guns (the most common method of suicide for men) may not have changed as significantly over the years.
 
-Zedability

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Question #85226 posted on 05/04/2016 10:34 p.m.
Q:

Dear 100 Hour Board,

I promised myself that I would never write a question this long, but here I go.

I've spent the last few months grumbling over the fact that BYU's student health insurance isn't ACA-approved and muttering under my breath at BYU administrators for being stingy penny-pinchers instead of doing their students a good turn. "What," I thought, "they're too niggardly to bring their student plan in line with the MINIMUM standards required by the federal government? Shame on them."

Over the weekend, however, I learned from a probably-reliable source that the reason BYU's health insurance isn't ACA-compliant is because it refuses to cover abortions as part of its plan.

So. Aside from feeling guilty that I'd assumed the worst of those in charge of BYU's student health benefits, I am also now extremely conflicted. The reason I'm conflicted is because I actually found myself disagreeing with the Hobby Lobby case—it didn't seem right to me that employers should be able to deny birth control coverage to their employees (partly because birth control is used for things other than preventing contraception). But even though the situation here isn't much different, this strikes me as truly wrong. My gut feeling is that if (a) a university has strong religious reasons for opposing abortion, (b) it wants to offer affordable health care to its students, and (c) students will be fined for not having health care—how can the government force it to cover abortions? So even though I'm pretty liberal politically and tend to side with the pro-choice people on a lot of things, I find myself thoroughly disconcerted by this revelation.

So here's my question: will you help me decide how to feel about this? How do YOU feel about it? How is something like this legally justifiable? Is it somehow different from the Hobby Lobby case? Can I reconcile my disagreement with the Hobby Lobby verdict to my sense of disgust over requiring BYU to cover abortions? Do you think it's good or bad that the laws necessitate things like this? I'd welcome opinions from all ends of the spectrum.

Also, here are other questions I'm interested in knowing the answer to:

- Does this apply for full-time employees as well, like professors and staff? Will BYU be able to continue providing them with insurance?

- I assume that very few people will purchase BYU's student health insurance now since it doesn't comply with the ACA. Has enrollment decreased since August? How will this affect BYU financially?

- Why doesn't this fall under the umbrella of the Hobby Lobby case? If SCOTUS ruled that Hobby Lobby doesn't have to cover contraception, why does BYU have to cover abortion?

- Could this be challenged on legal grounds? How?

I know you're not lawyers and that maybe you don't have the resources to answer this question. But I'd really appreciate it if you would help me to understand.

-Thusly

A:

Dear you,

Healeaswhatshisnym covered the insurance aspect of it really well, and explained that abortion isn't the issue here. However, your question got me thinking about whether BYU insurance should cover abortion, and I came to some interesting and unorthodox conclusions, after pondering the Church policy about abortion only being permissible in cases of rape or where the life of the mother is threatened.

You see, I believe that in such situations, the moral thing to do is to not add a bill that can range from several hundred to several thousand dollars to all the stuff that the woman in question has to deal with. For instance, I can't imagine how heartbreaking it would be to have a planned pregnancy, be really excited about it, and then have to end it for medical reasons. If the pregnancy's medically complicated, I'm probably facing a decent medical bill without adding an uninsured abortion to the mix, and I'm probably already distraught enough without financial worries. (By the way, this is also an excellent argument against protesters at abortion clinics yelling at women and calling them murderers. You don't know why they're there.)

Similarly, in the case of rape, dealing with the trauma of being raped and the difficult decision of whether or not to keep the baby sounds like quite enough to handle. For some people, the cost of an abortion could be prohibitively expensive. For instance, imagine a BYU student who's living paycheck to paycheck and is mainly living off a diet of rice and beans. A $500 medical bill could well be out of her price range if she were raped, and having to deal with that stress on top of everything else just shouldn't happen, in my opinion.

So the issue becomes, how can the DMBA cover abortions the Church is okay with while excluding abortions that the Church is not okay with? Well, in the case of medically necessary abortions, it's pretty simple to add a clause like "Abortions shall only be covered in the case that a competent, licensed medical doctor has determined that the pregnancy threatens the life of the mother." They could have a form for the doctor to fill out, which would need to be submitted in order to obtain the insurance coverage. Pretty easy.

However, it's a lot more difficult to establish a definitive policy for rape victims, due to the fact that many rapes come down to he-said, she-said situations. Only about 2% of rapes lead to a felony conviction for the rapist. In fairness, those statistics usually include unreported rapes, but after the stories I've read about police mismanagement of rape cases, I can't really blame women who choose to not report their rapes. Some women may feel unable to report their rape, such as when the rapist is a friend or family member. Others may feel that they don't have enough evidence to lead to a conviction, and would prefer to avoid the emotional trauma of providing a rape kit and being questioned by police.

That's not the point, though. There are a lot of institutional barriers to justice for rape victims. However, as things currently stand, only 2% of rape victims receive justice. If you're going to try to impose some sort of legal test to whether someone was raped, for insurance purposes in covering abortion, you're probably going to end up denying coverage to over 90% of rape victims. The only way to make sure that every rape victim has the access to abortion that the Church allows her is to cover all abortions.

Meanwhile, anyone on DMBA insurance already has powerful incentives to avoid getting an abortion that the Church would not approve of. DMBA recipients are Church employees, missionaries, BYU employees, and BYU students. Any of them who got an unapproved abortion would lose their job, be sent home from their misson, or lose their ecclesiastical endorsement, not to mention face disciplinary action from the Church. Anyone who would be willing to take those risks probably wouldn't be deterred by the cost of an uninsured abortion anyways, so there's really no argument to be made that refusing to cover abortion acts as an effective deterrent to abortions.

So, in summary, I think that the DMBA should voluntarily cover abortions, because it's the right thing to do for rape victims and women with medically threatening pregnancies, while providing no meaningful incentive for women on DMBA insurance to get abortions for other reasons.

-Zedability

A:

Dear Theda,

In an effort to clear this question out of the inbox, I have taken Haleakala's really good answer and literally just copied it here (with a few edits for clarity and completion, blah blah blah). So all of this is Haleahealthinsurance's, I'm just putting it here since he said it would be okay.

I've been thinking about your question a lot over the past few months, because I've been placed in a similar situation - I'm getting kicked off my parents insurance soon, but I earn enough that I'll be subject to the tax penalty for not having insurance if I go with the BYU plan. I've spent a lot of time researching this, and I want to give out appropriate information to those who are in a situation like yours and mine. I've also spent a lot of time researching this because I was really upset with BYU too, but I didn't want to judge them unfairly. I'm going to try to present what I've found in my research to you (and other readers) in this answer in case it's helpful. I'm going to answer your questions in three parts. First, I'll explain what the situation actually is (your source wasn't exactly right), second, I'll give you appropriate information about your options if you're in this situation (as well as information about how to tell if you really are in this situation or not), and finally, I'll give you my opinion on BYU's decision.

Two important notes before we begin: First, if you're worried about tax penalties for your situation but don't care about my opinion or political/economic speculation about BYU's decision, you can just read part two. I've written each of the three parts of this answer so that they can be read on their own if you're only interested in certain pieces of information. Second, I am not a tax professional or a lawyer. In this answer I am providing a free service by presenting the information available as best as I understand it. However, both I and the 100 Hour Board official disclaim all liability for all answers posted. Use the advise given here at your own risk.


Part One: The Situation

As you'll read in section three, I don't necessarily have kind words for BYU on this subject, but as I've dug into the situation in order to answer your question, I've found that the situation created by the Affordable Care Act is actually way more complicated than I had originally imagined. I have some sympathy for their situation. This answer is complicated; but given the effort it seems like you put into your question, I assume you're someone that's willing to follow the complexity to get an answer. Let me put in a disclaimer before we get too far: I've done research using publicly available documents and information about the Affordable Care Act to given you an answer. As you'll see, the Church is in a fairly unique position here, and since I'm not a lawyer I may not have gotten everything exactly right, though I've done my best.

Let's start with the basics. This is actually about much more than BYU. This is about the Church as a whole. You see, the Church employs so many people (and runs so many other organizations) that long before the Affordable Care Act (which is important to the story and we'll get to in a minute) was passed, it started it's own insurance company to run it's healthcare plan for its U.S. employees and others it was responsible for. The organization is called "Deseret Mutual Benefits Administrators," abbreviated DMBA. You might recognize their logo; if you're currently on the student health plan, or if you served a domestic mission, their logo was on the insurance card you were given. They run all the Church's healthcare programs, including the student health plan for all church schools, the medical program for domestic missionaries, and a more comprehensive insurance plans for its full-time employees - including employees of BYU.

We'll come back to DMBA. Now let's shift gears and talk about the Affordable Care Act. This is the law that we call "Obamacare." In this answer, I refer to this law by the abbreviation "ACA." However, the terms "Affordable Care Act," "ACA," and "Obamacare" are all interchangeable. 

When President Obama took office in 2010, he made overhauling the U.S. health system a priority of his administration. There were several problems he wanted to address. First, there were too many Americans that were under-insured. Before the ACA, many medical insurance plans had what were called "maximum benefits" numbers (also sometimes called "benefits caps"), which meant that the insurance plan would stop paying for your medical bills, even if you were still sick, after it had paid out a certain amount. This was a very terrible situation. Often, people purchased insurance plans that seemed to have an absurdly high cap on benefits - often in the millions of dollars - only to find that their insurance plans weren't enough when they faced very serious medical problems like a serious car crash or cancer. Imagine being part way through treatment only to find that your insurance company was no longer going to cover your chemotherapy. 

The second problem President Obama wanted to fix was that buying health insurance without an employer was too difficult - almost impossible. People who were self-employed or between jobs often didn't have an effective way to purchase health insurance. Many insurance companies didn't even sell health insurance to individual people or families. And even if an individual or family managed to purchase health insurance on their own, there were almost no laws protecting them. Often, insurance companies would end people's coverage just because the policy holders were becoming too expensive for the insurance company - even if the individual hadn't done anything wrong and had always paid their premium every month - and they could do this completely legally.

Third, President Obama wanted to end the practice of denying someone coverage for what was referred to as a pre-existing condition. Basically, what this meant was that if you signed up for health insurance for any reason (starting a new job, buying an insurance plan yourself, etc.) you wouldn't receive coverage for any condition you had already been diagnosed with, no matter how serious. (Cancer, etc.) That may seem horribly unkind on the part of insurance companies (What if someone just started a new job?), but remember the problem you would run into if insurance companies didn't have that rule: no one would ever purchase health insurance until they got sick. Since only very sick people would purchase health insurance, premiums would skyrocket, and no one would be able to afford health insurance.

So, in order to solve these problems, President Obama made several changes to the health insurance industry in the Affordable Care Act. In order to solve the first problem (about plan benefit maximums), he simply made benefit caps illegal. President Obama almost certainly knew that this would result in higher premiums (and it has), but likely felt - rightly, in my opinion - that the benefit outweighed the risk. To solve the second problem (the difficulty of buying health insurance as an individual) he created the now-infamous healthcare.gov website (and allowed states to create their own websites if they didn't want to use the federal one) where individuals could shop for health insurance.

Solving the last problem was the trickiest part of all. How could you require health insurance companies to cover pre-existing conditions without either (a) bankrupting all health insurance companies every where or (b) raising premiums to the point where health insurance is basically useless?

The answer, as you've probably already realized, is to force everyone to buy health insurance. This means that healthy people - who may not normally purchase health insurance unless they are legally required to - would be paying health insurance premiums just like sick people. This way, there's no risk that healthy people would wait to buy health insurance, and this means that health insurance premiums won't skyrocket. 

Now I've only addressed the BIGGEST changes the ACA made. There are a lot of smaller ones. For example, nearly every healthcare plan in the world - even government-sponsored ones like Medicaid - have some form of cost-sharing scheme. Which means that the patient pays some part of their costs. For example, if you see the doctor and the total fee was $100 for a regular appointment (which is about average) your insurance company might require you to pay a flat fee (called a "copay," maybe around $5), or a percentage of your costs (called coinsurance, often around 5-10%). 

President Obama decided that people were less likely to get preventative care if they had to participate in such "cost sharing" measures for that type of care, so he required that everyone get some types of preventative care (immunizations, annual physicals, mammograms) for free without cost sharing.

I bring this up to address one point you made in your question. You criticized BYU for not bring their plans up to the "minimum standard" as required by the government,. However, it's worth mentioning that when the Affordable Care Act was first passed, almost no plans met theses standards, because the rules were just too novel. Many of standards created by the ACA were very new at the time, and few plans met the standards staring out.

And this didn't just effect BYU. Health insurance companies across the country started canceling health insurance plans as the date the law took effect got closer. And that led to a huge public outcry - you might remember it - which led Congress and the president to pass a law allowing plans that didn't meet ACA standards to have "grandfathered" status. This is really important to understand - Congress essentially allowed health plans that already existed before the ACA was passed to continue operating legally (and exempting their participants from fines were not having insurance) until the end of 2017.

 

Part Two: What to Do

Before we begin, let's talk about whether or not you need to be worried. When the Affordable Care Act (also called "Obamacare," hereafter referred to as the "ACA") was passed, part of the law was that every American would be required to have health insurance or pay an additional tax. The ACA set certain standards for health insurance that every healthcare plan had to follow. BYU's health plan doesn't follow those standards, which means it doesn't count as actual "insurance" in the eyes of the federal government. That means that if you only have BYU's health insurance, you may face a tax penalty of around $700. That having been said, this will not effect you at all if any of the following apply to you:

  • You are on your parent's insurance plan and their insurance plan is Affordable Care Act compliant. Nearly all insurance plans (with the obvious exception of BYU's student plan) are ACA compliant, but you can talk to your parents to make sure if you're worried. Keep in mind that you can only stay on your parent's insurance until you turn 26. If you're approaching your twenty-sixth birthday and will still be in school at that time, you'll want to pay attention to the information below. If you'll have your own job by the time you turn twenty-six you can disregard this whole controversy. Stay on your parent's healthcare plan.
  • You or your spouse has a full-time job that provides you with compliant insurance. If you or your spouse are working full time and you are covered by the insurance provided by your or your spouse's employer, you can disregard this controversy. This is true even if you're working full-time for BYU, as long as you're enrolled in the insurance BYU provides for full-time employees, not the student health plan. Stick with your current insurance plan.
  • You get compliant health insurance from another source. If you get health insurance from somewhere else, and that insurance is ACA-compliant, you should keep that coverage and ignore this whole controversy.
Even if you don't fall into one of those three categories, you don't necessarily need to panic just yet. In order for me to explain to you your options, please look at the chart below and find your group letter based on your annual income and household size. Then scroll down to the explanation for you group and I'll explain to you your options. You'll also want to read the Frequently Asked Questions I've included at the end.
 
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SINGLE STUDENT:
$0-$10,000: Group A
$10,000-$11,770: Group B
$11,770 - $29,425: Group C
$29,426 - $47,080: Group D
$47,080+: Group E
MARRIED STUDENT (NO KIDS):
$0-$15,930: Group A
$15,930 - $39,825: Group C
$39,826 - $63,720: Group D
$63,720+: Group E
NOTE: THESE NUMBERS ONLY WORK IN UTAH!
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GROUP A:
Not eligible for ACA subsidies. Advise to stay on BYU plan. Don't earn too much money.

GROUP B:
The "it sucks to be you" group. You are both not eligible for insurance subsidies and subject to the tax penalty. You *may* be able to get out of it by filling out a complex tax form. If you have an accountant in the family, I recommend giving them a call.

Group C:
Subject to tax penalty and also eligible for insurance subsidies. You can enroll in a private healthcare plan on healthcare.gov BUT THIS IS A HUGE RISK! If your income drops below $11,770 (you lose a job, whatever) by the end of the year you will owe the IRS for the ALL the premium subsidies they gave you during year, which will average a couple hundred dollars a month. Alternatively, you can just sign up for the BYU health plan and eat the $695 tax.

Group D:
You earn this much as a student?!? Is your employer hiring?

Group E:
I'm very confident no BYU student falls into this group.

Frequently Asked Questions
What if my income changes and I change group numbers?
It sucks to be you. True Story.
What do I count as income?
Not FAFSA, but yes scholarships
I want private insurance from healthcare.gov but I don't know how to shop for insurance?
Define deductible, premium, copay, coinsurance, formulary.
Can I just not have insurance?
No. That is both stupid and against BYU rules. They will enroll you in the student health plan even if you don't want it.


Part 3:

First of all, you're wrong for so, so, so, many reasons. The ACA does NOT - I repeat DOES NOT - require insurance to cover elective abortions. False. No. Nope. Untrue. Wrong. Was never a thing.

Most of this answer will not actually be opinion, but clarifying what the situation actually is. 

The spokesperson for BYU referred to birth control - not abortions. Even then, she was probably mistaken. BYU can't possibly have a problem with the requirement for birth control because either (A) the university is willing to cover it for single female employees otherwise its employees would be fined for not having insurance or (B) the university is exempted from the requirement. I suspect its B, but I will find out for sure.

Hobby Lobby doesn't actually apply to this situations because Hobby Lobby was about a closely held private corporation. BYU is a subsidiary for the Church and as such is in a different legal situation.

I'm almost certain the actual reason for this problem is that BYU doesn't want to spend the money to eliminate the out of pocket limit which the ACA makes illegal. It's probably not fair to blame BYU for this as being "penny pinchers" - other universities receive public funds to run their insurance programs. Also, BYU's premiums are literally like a third of the U's.

Does this apply for full-time employees as well, like professors and staff? Will BYU be able to continue providing them with insurance?

No, it does not apply to BYU employees. BYU continues to provide them with ACA-complient insurance. Hence you see the mistakenness of BYU's justification. Whatever moral issues it has with health insurance clearly do not seem to apply to its employees. What it's spokesperson said is simply patently false. I don't think she was lying, I think she (he?) was mistaken - when he said the birth control played a role, he was responding to a question from a reporter.

I assume that very few people will purchase BYU's student health insurance now since it doesn't comply with the ACA. Has enrollment decreased since August? How will this affect BYU financially?

Yeah, because BYU is just going to give us those numbers. I can say that it probably won't impact BYU financially overall because the health program is self-funded and I doubt BYU is using student's premium money to do other things. Why? Because that would be stupid.

Some students are exempt from the health insurance penalty and will likely not have to pay very much.

Why doesn't this fall under the umbrella of the Hobby Lobby case? If SCOTUS ruled that Hobby Lobby doesn't have to cover contraception, why does BYU have to cover abortion?

This is a question that I honestly don't know the answer to.

Could this be challenged on legal grounds? How?

Ha. No.

So anyways, there's what Halea said. He did a really great job but unfortunately, as Zedabilty said in a flagette, "THE LACK OF GOOD HEALTH INSURANCE KILLED [HALEAKALA]."

Good luck!!

-Adelaide

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Question #85945 posted on 05/04/2016 10:17 p.m.
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Dear 100 Hour Board,

I know you guys aren't doctors or psychologists, but I need an opinion and I don't know who else to ask.

My brother has pretty severe depression (search double depression to learn more) and is having a rough time navigating the treatment process. I have a psych degree, so I have a little more knowledge than the average person about what his treatment and condition look like. I do my best to help my family understand what a realistic timeline and process look like, but I'm starting to get really worried about the effect of my mother on his ability to recover. He's away at school juggling work, classes, therapy, and the hell that is trying to find a medication match. He calls my mother frequently in an attempt to ward off the destructive throughts and patterns he experiences and to seek the comfort of home. Recently I discovered that her thought patterns are very similar to his, except instead of applying them to herself, she gets really down on him and his situation. He already struggles with blaming himself for everything that goes wrong, crediting others for anything that goes right, overgeneralizing any single negative occourance to all future potentialities, etc. etc. He's working very hard in therapy to overcome these patterns in therapy. But my mother not only shares these thought patterns, but feeds them back to him in their conversations and reinforces them to him! I know she wants him to be okay, but I feel like she is unwittingly burning down all of the supportive structures he's built to challenge his depression each time they talk. I'm so frustrated with her and I've tried having rational talks with her to help her recognize how her own thought patterns are affecting him, but she doesn't realize that she's pulling him down.

What can I do to stop this?! He's at such a crucial point in recovery and I know it's not going well. I hate watching her expect him to fail. I KNOW he can be okay and that the process is long and arduous but it DOES get better if he keeps trying. I wish I could tell him these things, but he's only really opened up to my mother about his depression, so I don't want to overstep my bounds. But I certainly can't stand idly by and watch her poison his perspective with her pessimism.
Help. What should I do?


-I believe in you

A:

Dear person,

Your mom doesn't seem to get it, so I would talk to him about it. It sounds like you are an empathetic and understanding person and he really needs that in his life. 

I don't think he would be mad if you said something like, "Hey, I know you've been feeling pretty down and depressed and I really care about you. I know mom sometimes says things like ____ and I feel concerned about how that affects you and if you ever need someone else to talk to I'm here for you."

If he does get upset, that's his choice. But I doubt he would react that way. I think it's likely that part of him probably knows already that she isn't the best influence on him, and maybe he wishes he had other people he felt he could talk to. 

-Sheebs


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Question #86378 posted on 05/04/2016 10:06 p.m.
Q:

Dear 100 Hour Board,

How strongly do you feel about ethics and the organisation you work for? For example, would you work for a multi national you know are avoiding taxes? For a company who promote something you disagree with? Etc.

-Anglophone

A:

Dear you,

If the company is doing something illegal, I feel like working there is a bad idea, because if the law comes down against them, you could find yourself out of a job. It could also be more difficult to get a job when your most recent job experience is for a company that did something illegal (assuming it becomes public knowledge), even if you weren't a part of that.

For myself personally, I find that when an organization is doing things I disagree with but are not illegal, my comfort level changes depending on how involved I am in those things.

-Zedability

A:

Dear you,

I currently work for BYU, so I don't have a problem with the ethics in general. But my job recently had a management shakeup, which made the organization more frustrating. I really value efficiency, so it can be really frustrating to see the people at the bottom working the hardest but getting paid the least, while the management does nothing productive but profits anyway.

So I have a problem with the ethics of individuals, but not the organization itself. 

Love,

Luciana


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Question #86274 posted on 05/04/2016 9:47 p.m.
Q:

Dear 100 Hour Board,

Long one, sorry.

There is a movement to grant immunity from honor code investigation when somebody is a victim of rape. This is an interesting proposal that I'm still deciding what I think of it. I have two main questions about law in general that stem from what I think are the two legitimate reasons for granting immunity.

Reason 0: the victim has been punished enough. Not a valid reason, and I wish people wouldn't phrase it this way. If rape=punishment, and punishment=consequences of choices, then rape=consequence of victim's choices. We're not going there.
Reason 1:the victim has suffered enough. Potentially valid. Question: legal precedent? Do thieves get parole sooner if their father was beating them as a kid? Are judges more likely to save a murderer from a death sentence if they grew up in bad circumstances? This is a sincere question about how forgiving/just our society is with those who break social contacts, and I really don't know what the precedents are.
Reason 2: release a small fish to catch bigger ones. Wisconsin recently made common practice into law to forgive underage drinking for minors reporting sexual assault. Question:how small does the fish have to be? Should every crime "smaller" than rape be granted immunity to catch predators? Again, I'm sincerely interested to know how you would practically go about that. Where would you set the line?

-The Instigator, actually not trying to instigate anything this time

A:

Dear you,

I completely agree with your Reason 0. In addition to promoting victim blaming, that kind of thinking has, in extreme cases in other countries, led to rape being handed down as an actual punishment from courts (or, if a man committed the crime, the punishment is for his wife or other female relative to be raped).* That's just so, so wrong, and the only time the word "punishment" should be used in the context of rape is when discussing penalties for the rapist. Period.

In response to your other points, I have a few thoughts:

  1. Rape is against the law. The vast majority of ways to break the Honor Code, on the other hand, are not against the law. To my mind, that does suggest that even serious violations of the Honor Code pale before committing rape, which is both against the law and one of the most egregious possible ways to violate the Honor Code. Note that rape is one of the few sins that is explicitly mentioned in the Church Handbook as being grounds for excommunication. Rape is obviously in a different class from other Honor Code violations as a result, and in my opinion, it's wrong to prioritize non-criminal violations of the Honor Code (even sexual violations) over catching people who are egregiously breaking the law and the commandments.
     
  2. The only major Honor Code violations that I can think of that are also against the law that commonly come up in rape victims' cases are drinking/drug use, and trespassing (being in campus buildings after hours). The second is, in my opinion, obviously minor enough that it could justify immunity in order to encourage rape reporting. As for drinking, while I can't remember where I read this information, there are multiple universities that explicitly state in their policies that rape victims will not be punished for underage drinking if reporting their rape leads to the disclosure that they had been drinking. As you noted, Wisconsin did as well. From a legal perspective, I think there is enough precedent to demonstrate that underage drinking should be forgiven if it helps to catch rapists. Most rapists go on to rape multiple times (I think the average is 6). It's a terrible crime with terrible consequences. Meanwhile, while underage drinking in general can lead to drunk driving and other issues, individual cases of underage drinking are relatively consequence-free, beyond the fact that they broke the law. This is reflected in the wide variety of drinking ages in different developed countries; clearly, while drinking becomes harmful to society as a whole when allowed below a certain age, the consequences are not severe enough to make it a clear-cut issue.

    While BYU has the Word of Wisdom, as well as the law, to guide its practices, I think that drinking is still minor enough that the punishment should not be so severe as to discourage rape victims from reporting. I would point out that the Word of Wisdom is a timely, rather than timeless, law; alcohol has, in many dispensations, not been sinful, and while it is against the commandments now, it is more of an issue of obedience than being inherently sinful.
     
  3. Guidance from the federal Title IX office, released in a 2011 Dear Colleague Letter, states on page 15 (emphasis mine):

    Schools should be aware that victims or third parties may be deterred from reporting incidents if alcohol, drugs, or other violations of school or campus rules were involved. As a result, schools should consider whether their disciplinary policies have a chilling effect on victims’ or other students’ reporting of sexual violence offenses. For example, OCR recommends that schools inform students that the schools’ primary concern is student safety, that any other rules violations will be addressed separately from the sexual violence allegation, and that use of alcohol or drugs never makes the victim at fault for sexual violence.

    In other words, it's been explicitly stated for five years that disciplinary policies can discourage reporting of sexual violence. While BYU claims that the HCO investigations of rulebreaking are separate from the actual rape allegations, in compliance with Title IX, I think that more consideration of how that rulebreaking is treated is certainly warranted.
     
  4. Immunity and suspension are not the only two options in responding to rulebreaking. Many institutions, from universities to places of work, have a policy where a first violation of their code of conduct results in a verbal or written warning. I think that rape victims would greatly benefit from a policy that states that any punishment for Honor Code violations that occurred incident to the rape will face a maximum penalty of a written warning. This preserves accountability to a greater extent than immunity, because if Honor Code violations occur after receipt of the written warning, there is a paper trail that this violation is a matter of habit and the punishment will be correspondingly more serious. However, a written warning in and of itself doesn't give students cause to fear for their academic future in the way that suspension or expulsion does. It doesn't disrupt their lives in a way that would force them to explain their rape to people they don't want to tell about it. I think it would provide incentive to not violate the Honor Code in the future, while assuring rape victims that reporting will not result in overly severe punishment.

    I think a policy like this would greatly increase sexual violence reports, and that's incredibly important. While I can't share details, due to the fact that these particular people have not decided to talk about their rape publicly, I have personally heard victim stories where their rapist explicitly threatened to turn them in to the HCO if they attempted to report the rape. The circumstances of these stories strongly suggest that the rapist targeted them because of the honor code violation that was occuring, becuase the rapist knew that he would be able to successfully intimidate his victims into silence. It is reasonable to infer from these stories that the rapists had raped before and would probably rape again. Their stories, to me, strongly suggest the presence of serial rapists on campus who are deliberately using the Honor Code as a tool to enable their rape. That is completely contrary to what the Honor Code, and BYU as a whole, is supposed to stand for. The situation is completely unacceptable, and it's exacerbated by the fact that it's almost impossible to know how the HCO is going to react to an Honor Code violation ahead of time. A clearly stated, transparent policy with a maximum penalty that is not unduly punitive for rape victims would go a long way to fixing this problem.
-Zedability
 
*Male rape can and absolutely does occur, with the rapist being male or female, but I've never heard of it being handed down as a punishment from a local court the way I have of female rape. However, while I'm on this tangent, I'd also point out that male rape in prisons is frequently treated as a reason to avoid committing crimes, despite the fact that it is not an official part of our legal system. In other words, we've become so resigned to the high rates of sexual assaults in jails that we frequently treat it as an inevitable part of the punitive process. This is an unacceptable attitude that needs to stop.


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Question #86377 posted on 05/04/2016 8:30 p.m.
Q:

Dear 100 Hour Board,

What is the current "Brownie Points" to "Kudos" conversion rate?

-Professor Curious

A:

Dear PC,

About 45 to 1. 

People give away brownie points without a second thought. Kudos are much classier. The conversion rate can vary wildly, however, depending on who the brownie points or kudos come from. It's a big problem with non-standardized social currencies. Luckily, the conversion rate doesn't matter so much if you give them out in bajillions like I do. 

-TEN

A:

Dear Prof,

I would like to back up TEN's claims with some anecdotal research. From what I've seen, after I've baked brownies, there are always tons of little brownie crumbs (or, "brownie points") left in the pan, ready to be collected at one end of the pan and then, in the most dignified way possible, shaken into my gaping mouth. Kudos bars, on the other hand, are practically impossible to find these days, which is basically the worst thing ever because they are basically the best thing ever.

-Frère Rubik


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Question #86286 posted on 05/04/2016 6:28 p.m.
Q:

Dear 100 Hour Board,

Do homemade marshmallows really taste better than store bought? Can you even tell the difference?

-Taste the Test

A:

Dear TNT,

One of my good friends growing up would always make homemade marshmallows and rave about them. But to me, they're all just sugar.

Cheers,

The Lone Musketeer

A:

Dear you,

I don't have much of anything useful to add except that there's a Good Eats episode on Netflix right now on how to make homemade marshmallows, called Puff the Magic Marshmallow.

-Squirrel


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Question #86376 posted on 05/04/2016 5:58 p.m.
Q:

Dear 100 Hour Board,

What things about being a BYU student do you wish you had known about as a freshman? I'm talking about things like not using all your Dining Plus money on food and stocking your sophomore apartment with things, or great study places, or cool clubs or classes, or half-off cards in the Cougareat, whatever you can think of. It's only been about a decade since I've been at BYU, but I know lots has changed.

-Momma Chubbs

A:

Dear Doctor,

There a ton of questions in the archives about advice for freshmen, and while I don't have links for you right now, keep an eye on the FAQs.

But, my one bit of advice is to get to know professors better, because there will come a time when you need letters of recommendation and then you will realize that you have maybe one professor to ask when you need three.

-Tally M.

A:

Dear Momma,

As someone with a disability, I wish I had known about the UAC. I also knew about the counseling center but I wish I had known that I could request a faculty counselor. My counseling sessions improved significantly when I stopped seeing a student counselor.

-a writer

A:

Dear Mommy,

My answer isn't really specific to BYU, but as I near graduation I'm realizing I have a lot of regrets about how I've pursued my college education.

1. Don't declare your major as a freshman. Even if you think you know what you want to do with your life, take the time to explore classes that interest you or classes you wouldn't otherwise take. I declared a history major halfway through my freshman year, and so I immediately adjusted my class schedule so I was taking history courses and GE courses.

Now, as a senior, I regret that. My education has mostly focused on liberal arts, and the only scientific or technical classes I've taken have been the ones I was required to take. I really enjoyed the elective classes that I chose, but suddenly I realized how few technical skills I have. I have friends studying biochemistry who have all kinds of research and lab experience, and I have nothing like that. So choose some classes for fun, but also some that will stretch your abilities and teach you concrete new skills, like computer programming or personal finance or creative writing.

2. Try taking some spring and summer classes. Admittedly I'm only a week into my first spring term, but I love how relaxed it is, and how empty campus is (though I know, EFY is coming...). The classes aren't too much work and are relatively easy. Plus it's way easier to get through everything when classes are only like seven weeks.

3. Work. College is a time when you need to work on enhancing and fleshing out your resume. I think it's incredibly important to have a job and to try out jobs in various fields while you can. Since starting college, I've worked in food sales and food prep, retail, custodial, and as a TA. Each job has brought me good experience and a history of customer service, but they've also taught me about what kind of jobs I like and what qualities of a job frustrate me. That has really helped me narrow down what career I think my future could hold. Even if you don't need to work, you should do it, both to build up your resume and to teach yourself the value of hard work. As a side note, you can get a 50% off card for BYU food only if you work in food (and concessions doesn't count).

4. Try your hardest to be independent from your family. If your family lives in Provo that might be more difficult, but I think perhaps the most important thing you learn in college is to be an independent adult. You have to learn what it means to take care of yourself and not rely on other people to solve your problems. You have to learn what it's like to struggle without an intimate support system, and what it means to be poor.

5. Network. Get to know people going into your field and professors who are established in your field. Find people who you can ask for help and advice. Be assertive in asking for assistance in finding worthwhile jobs, internships, and other opportunities.

6. Take classes that will challenge you and force you to see the world in a different way. For instance, I think every BYU student ought to take World Religions, because the rest of our education is so focused on the LDS faith. If you're studying mechanical engineering, then take an Intro to Humanities class. If you're studying English, take a physics class. Take subjects that will force you to contemplate opposing points of view.

7. Keep up on the news. This can seem like just another chore if you've already finished a ton of homework that day, but you can't consider yourself an educated person if you have no idea what's happening in the world around you. You can pick up a copy of The New York Times from the Kennedy Center every weekday.

Sorry that this wasn't terribly BYU-specific, but please, learn from my regrets.

Love,

Luciana


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Question #86316 posted on 05/04/2016 5:21 p.m.
Q:

Dear 100 Hour Board,

As we all know by now, I have chronic health conditions. Winner, winner, chicken dinner! :) Recently, I've been more sick than usual, which has resulted in me being tested for several nefarious diseases/issues by hematologists and so forth. I'm keeping my chin up about it. In efforts to maintain a positive outlook, I am trying to be creative. (Please, see below).

One of the many tests being conducted is a FISH BCR-ABL test (sent to the Cytogenetics). I never heard of this before, and didn't really think about it (as I hadn't heard of the many others either, Jak 2 anyone?). But my friend who is doing his Medical Residency at Stanford was ecstatic to hear that my doctor sent my blood-work to the Cytogentics for FISH testing, and told me to ask the pathologists for a copy of the slide (apparently, FISH tests/results look like these images, which depict my chromosomes). He said I should get a copy of it (regardless of the results) and frame that puppy because it's like a picture of me at the tiniest level I'll prob get a chance to see.

I'm wondering, will the pathologists automatically give me a copy of the image or do I have to request it specifically? If so, how? My hematologist sent it a special Cytogentic lab so I'm not in contact with the people performing the tests -- just my hematologist. If I want to frame my image, how do I get a copy? Do you know of anyone who has a copy of their image and what creative things they have done with it, if any?

-Pills & Pillows

P.S. On a slightly related note, if I wanted to get DNA testing to know the exact fractions/percents of where my ancestors came from (ex: 87% Western European, 13% Native American), how much is that, and where do I do that?

P.P.S. In the Bible, we read about the woman with the "issue of blood." We know that means she was like having menstruating issues, but have modern doctors tried to diagnosis her with the little info they have about her?

A:

Dear Pills,

It looks like none of us on the Board have any experience with the FISH BCR-ABL test, so we can't give you step by step instructions on how exactly to get a copy of the picture of your chromosomes. The best thing you could do is ask your doctor if you can have a copy. If your doctor doesn't know, ask for the contact info of the people doing the tests, and ask them. We at the Board are knowledgeable and have lots of collective life experience and stuff, but for things like this, asking your doctor is probably your best bet for getting a specific answer.

As for your first P.S., ancestry.com does genetic testing for about $99, but apparently they have lots of sales. My sister and her husband just did this a few weeks ago, and they said it was great! We know in general in my family that we're Scandinavian and British with some other stuff mixed in, but the exact percentages actually vary from person to person based on their genes. My sister said it was really cool to see exactly how much of everything she is, so this comes highly recommended!

And as far as the woman with the issue of blood goes, I wasn't able to find any information about modern doctors trying to diagnose her specific condition. The King James version of the Bible says "issue of blood," but apparently the original Greek is better translated to "bleeding woman." According the the Wikipedia page on her, that's why modern scholars say she was "having menstruating issues." I know there are some women who have normal periods throughout their life, and then suddenly they start their period and it just never stops, and they can be constantly bleeding for months or even years. There are probably lots of causes for that, so the Bible doesn't give us enough information to know exactly what was causing this woman's period to last so long.

Good luck with all your medical tests and staying positive! You've got this! 

-Alta


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Question #86375 posted on 05/04/2016 3:41 p.m.
Q:

Dear 100 Hour Board,

If you lost an eye in a horrific incident, would your wear a glass eye, or an eye-patch?

-The Board Ghost

A:

Dear Doctor,

I'd channel Nick Fury and get an eye patch.

But I also like Auto's idea below.

-Tally M.

A:

Dear TBG,

I'd wear the glass eye and then put the eyepatch on the wrong eye, rendering me effectively blind. I think it would be funny to confuse people, and I don't need more reasons than that.

-TEN

A:

Dear Ghost,

I choose an eye in the style of Mad-Eye Moody.

If it can't see through objects and the back of my head, I have no interest in it.

-April Ludgate

A:

Dear you,

My aunt had a glass eye. You couldn't even tell. I'd go with that.

-Zedability


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Question #86372 posted on 05/04/2016 2 p.m.
Q:

Dear 100 Hour Board,

Wow, it seems like everyone here is pairing off. It may not be necessary but would you like to update us on your relationship status, M.O.D.A.Q.?

-possibly M.O.D.A.Q.

A:

Hello Kitty,

Why, yes, I did just ask this question so I could state for the record that I am not dating any of these nerds now or ever.

-M.O.D.A.Q.

A:

Dear Mo,

Wow! Wow! I thought we had something special here. Thank you for rejecting me so publicly and thoroughly.

- Soulful 

A:

Hey Ginger,

Me? Reject you?

You've brushed me off so many times I've lost count.

-M.O.D.A.Q.


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Question #86335 posted on 05/04/2016 9:59 a.m.
Q:

Dear Graduated Writers,

What were you most excited for about graduating (is it the same thing now that you're graduated)? What do you miss most about BYU?

-Pallas

A:

Dear Doctor,

I was really excited to not have to commute as much as I was, but while I'm still commuting less, I'm commuting more than I thought I would. I do have to say that I miss the amount of variety that was in my day; even if I was super bored, I'd be doing something different in an hour.

-Tally M.

A:

Dear P,

Before I graduated, I was really excited to start graduate school. Immediately after I graduated, that didn't change, and I'm still quite happy with my choice. Nowadays, I'm getting really tired of taking classes because my research is more interesting and engaging. I definitely won't miss being graded on everything I do. Grades were a huge impediment to my education, and I love that I can direct my own learning now. If I want to become an expert on, say, supersonic jets or music production software, I can learn what I need without being bogged down by prerequisites or unnecessary information. If I find a topic I like more, I can switch gears whenever I want, and tangents are no longer a bad thing. It's very freeing. 

I'm not really qualified to answer your second question since I never left BYU. I graduated in April 2014 and started my graduate work the following spring term. I can't predict what I'm going to miss, either, since I don't know where I will go afterward.

-TEN

A:

Dear Palisander,

BEHOLD YE LONGE AND BORINGE MONOLOGUE, READER, AND DESPAIR! Let's get started.

Honestly, I was dreading graduation. I started work on my undergraduate in Fall 2007 when—ironic though it may seem—I tried to get through school as fast as possible. I signed up for a Spanish major, then switched to a Biology major, discovered it was boring, declared myself an Environmental Science major because I saw a cool pamphlet, and went on my mission. When I arrived back from my mission I decided maybe I had to figure out if my major was right for me. I began taking classes like crazy and would end up going to school year-round for the next three years in an attempt to both figure out if I liked my major and blow my generals out of the water. And blow them out of the water I did, if that phrase can be read here as "withdrawing from College Algebra 110 once, failing outright twice over spring and summer and eventually getting a C- a semester later."  When I ended up re-declaring Environmental Science as my major, I did so not because I really cared for the classes, but because I needed to have a declared major to apply to the Media Arts program as a minor and it sounded more likely to bring me employment than a Latin American Studies major, where for some reason I had effortlessly accumulated like thirty-three credits.

Okay... If this is going to be a sob story, we may as well get to the sobbing part. Bla bla bla, I went on like two study abroads in the same year that were freakin' sweet. I went to both the Jerusalem Center and the Andes and Amazon Field School in Ecuador where I met Owlet while I was still a reader. Things were great, until I had the worst semester of my entire academic career in Fall 2013. It wasn't my only bad semester, either. The intervening years between then and April 2016 have been nothing less than a royal sufferfest of academic malaise and possibly depression. I hate academic work... but I dearly love being at BYU. WHY, ARDILLA, WHY?!?

At the time I write this, I would probably say it's all I've ever really known. We're trained basically from birth to be students, and so for the last twenty-two years I've had some sort of vague goal to work towards. Now... now what do I work towards? 'Cause while you're a student you seem to have more flexibility with telling people "I have no idea what I'm doing with my life, but it's okay because school." Well, I still am telling people that, except now I have no idea "because recent graduation." 

More than that, though, school seemed to represent possibility. Something I began to say in Board Question #84452 but then stopped because I was trolling Tally, M. (sorry Tally) was that I've realized I am crazy about access to things, or rather, the perception that I have access to things. Let me 'splain: Have you ever sat in one place with two convenient options, but then you don't want to make a choice and pick something to do because then you can't do the other thing instead? I hate that feeling. I hate it. And it basically defines my life. I hate it when I realize I no longer have access to resources, programs, or people. When I take the time to think about it, I subconsciously try to set up situations so I can access stuff. To make this clearer, let me make you a short list of some things I have had access to at one point or another since I showed up at BYU:

  • Most buildings or rooms on campus (when I was a nighttime building security officer at BYU, not so coincidentally during the summer when I failed College Algebra twice)
  • Basically all of the Museum of Art (signed up when I left my first job and became a MOA guard)
  • Part of a government base because I had a summer job there
  • A sweet greenhouse and a lab on campus, for a research job
  • Being able to sign up for random classes because I was a student, especially film, foreign language, dance and student activity classes (it is harder to take classes at a university when you don't attend it, btw)
  • Being able to use campus student resources (including but not limited to counseling)
  • Harold B. Lee Library services and resources, especially the Multimedia Lab
  • The 100 Hour Board, obviously.

Sometimes the access is more abstract in nature.

  • When I worked as a figure drawing model I had an "in" with the students and teachers, and I could sometimes sit in on classes and draw with them because they were already familiar with me. I also heard about random animators and artists coming and lecturing at BYU (people like Cory Loftis, character designer for Zootopia). I was also able to go to the anatomy lab and learn about the human body via cadavers because of this job. Yes, that was on my bucket list. Also dead people smell weird. When they're preserved in formaldehyde, anyways.
  • I weaseled my way into BYU's  Theatre Ballet performance of Alice in Wonderland partly because it was a very convenient way to very quickly get to know all the BYU ballet girls, who I generally found very attractive (turns out they were almost all freshmen... **sigh**). 
  • On a wider scale, BYU I think to me has represented access to people to date and access to some yet-to-materialize successful dating future. More on that in a second.

Now, this idea of access has some serious limitations. Try I might, my functional access to any one thing or person is limited. I can't take advantage of every thing and resource because there simply isn't time, and even though all the time in the world would never be enough while I was still at BYU there was still the possibility I could somehow make meaning out of all this stuff. 

There's a serious social component to this as well. Much of my social life for the last decade-ish has come from BYU. My coworkers, classmates, friends, roommates and people I date are overwhelmingly people I've met here, and it's nice to know people and be able to run into them as I walk around campus or study in the library. Also, shout out to my peeps at the Learning Commons desk, if you're reading this. You're the best. Circulation desk peeps, you're cool too. But the other desk and me, well, we tight. We tight.

Now I can still go to campus and see people I know, but I feel as a graduate I am no longer a student. I feel I have become "other." Now when I show up to campus, I feel like I have to theoretically have some reason besides just wanting to be there. 

Okay, now comes the foretold whining about dating: I statistically have been pretty bad at dating at BYU. We won't go into all the reasons for this, but I left BYU very frustrated with dating and very, very single. I recognize it's not healthy to base my feeling of self-worth on something as fickle and sneaky as dating, but to some extent I consciously or subconsciously have and it left me bitter, weary and frustrated. That's pretty close to how I always feel about it, but at least before I knew there was the possibility of finding new people to date serendipitously as I did virtually anything on campus and being able to hit the "reset" button on my Feroz Dating Hopefulness Modulator whenever a new semester started. 

What do I miss most now I've graduated? I'm not sure, as it's only been like a week since I dumped my stuff into a beat-up Honda Odyssey minivan and drove it reluctantly to the casa de mis padres and moved back into the basement and resumed whatever it was I was doing before college, which it appears are video games and wasting my life on the internet and avoiding human contact (although I did manage to accidentally get a decent summer job starting in a week). This week has been very frustrating, as it appears my procrastination and self-loathing have survived my academic career. There are some good things, though. For example, I found out my parents own TWO WHOLE BAGS OF GARLIC RYE TEXAS TOAST CROUTONS! At least, they did. Now there's only one. Also now I can move anywhere and be jobless there at any time! And struggle with student debt! Yay! You know what? Maybe I'll just go find that second bag of croutons.

TL;DR: Ardilla is angry about lots of things but he also has some croutons. 

Suerte,

--Ardilla Feroz


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Question #86364 posted on 05/04/2016 9:58 a.m.
Q:

Dear 100 Hour Board,

The honor code/rape scandal has been breaking my heart. I hate hearing that women were treated so atrociously; I hate seeing the university I love in the news for such awful situations.

Since I'm not at BYU these days, can you tell me about what the on-campus reaction has been? Have any actual changes been made since the statement from President Worthen?

And what do you, personally think should happen when women (or men) report sexual assault? Does that change if they were breaking the honor code when it happened?

-sad cougar

A:

Dear Sadie,

The Honor Code is awesome. It really is, and it's there to protect us. We all signed it. Unfortunately, just like we break the commandments, sometimes we might slip up. We might stay over too late, cheat, have a drink, or even go too far with a member of the opposite gender.

However, just like Christ's Atonement allows us to repent of our misdoings and of breaking the commandments, the Honor Code Office at BYU needs to find a way to allow students to really, truly, and thoroughly repent of their misdoings without a blatant expulsion for a simple violation. Because here's the fact of the matter: actions have consequences. If you go to a party, get drunk, and get raped, there are TWO actions that happened here. One, you got raped. This is NEVER EVER EVER UNDER ANY CIRCUMSTANCES the victim's fault. However, there is another action here: you broke the Honor Code. Plain and simple, you had alcohol, which is obviously against the Honor Code that you signed and agreed to live by.

I think people are under the assumption that one violation of the Honor Code will get you kicked out of BYU immediately, no questions asked. I have heard of cases of this, but I think it's less known that a lot of the time, people who violate the Honor Code are expected to do something to make up for what they have done while still being able to remain a student (I might be wrong on this), especially for first-time offenders or people who turn themselves in. They might have to write an essay or do community service, but I think getting expelled is kind of the rare extreme. I think what some people forget is that there are consequences for every action. A lot of people these days (myself included) seem very quick to make up excuses or deny their actions but very slow to accept consequences and work through whatever they may need to do to make it better. In my opinion, consequences need to be accepted (you had a drink, which means you broke the Honor Code, and there should be a consequence to that). There should always be a way to accept consequences of your actions but, through true apology, make it better without necessarily getting kicked out of BYU. However, first and foremost, victims of sexual assault need to be helped with that (legally, emotionally, physically, etc.) before any kind of Honor Code investigation.

If there is a way for ALL people (sexually assaulted or not) to confess to Honor Code violations without the fear of getting expelled, then there is opportunity for true repentance on all fronts to occur at BYU. Honor Code violations happen more often than we know, I think, and I know the repentance process is blocked off for a lot of people who are afraid of telling their bishops because they are terrified of getting expelled. The HCO also needs to accept help from bishops in assessing how an individual is progressing in the repentance process: after all, the bishop is the "judge in Israel" and, as a University owned by a Church that believes in revelation, the HCO should hold bishops' opinions in extremely high regard.

Personally, I think creating a system of true "repentance" for Honor Code violations is the thing the HCO needs. Victims of sexual assault can get the help they need, but justice is still satisfied. Even if the Honor Code Office finds out about an Honor Code violation that occurred before the sexual assault, someone who is truly repentant should be able to make their way back on the path. People should not be afraid of reporting sexual assault because they're afraid of getting expelled. Frequent counselor meetings and maybe some community service (for the Honor Code violation, NOT the sexual assault) can help an individual progress and truly repent of their actions. After all, isn't that the message of the Gospel? That we are imperfect people who just need a little help and mercy to help them become better?

-Adelaide


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Question #86374 posted on 05/04/2016 9:57 a.m.
Q:

Dear 100 Hour Board,

Can you sing the praises of your favorite beverage for me?

-Limeade is king

A:

Dear Yes,

The problem here lies in me picking a "favorite beverage." Do I go with orange juice? An Orange Julius? Fresca Toronja? Lemonade? Cherry Limeade from Sonic? A Castaway from Sodalicious? A cold Gatorade or Powerade after working in the hot sun? A lemon San Pellegrino paired with a delicious SLAB? That cheap powdered lemonade that always is served at my ward's Break the Fast and always tastes super delicious after fasting? A cold glass of fresh Rubikland ice water with one of Mère Rubik's delicious pastas? A hot Pacific Cooler Capri Sun that was accidentally left in the car on a day at the beach? A 32 oz. Arizona Golden Bear Strawberry Lemonade with pebbled ice, purchased for a mere $0.69 from a Floridian RaceTrac gas station? A warm mug of apple cider or herbal tea after a long snowboarding run? 

The killer of all of this is that I am stuck at work and thinking of all of these delicious beverages has made me very thirsty.

-Frère Rubik

A:

Dear Lick,

Until the last two years or so, I didn't really like cola. But I am now a Diet Coke addict. More specifically, I could live on Cherry Coke Zero.

First of all, though I can't claim it to be healthy, it does have zero calories and zero sugar, which for me is a big plus. 

Second, it tastes delicious. 

Third, it has caffeine. Even if you try to limit your caffeine intake, in small quantities it can do great things for your motivation and productivity.

Love,

Luciana


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Question #86371 posted on 05/04/2016 9:57 a.m.
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Dear 100 Hour Board,

How would I go about finding out the superior of one of my professors at BYU. I've had a bad experience with a particular professor who has mistreated other students as well and I'd like to write a letter to his superior letting them know of my specific concerns. Anyone know how I could do that?

-N.Hawkins

A:

Dear Hawkeye,

I recommend contacting the Dean of whatever college the professor works for.  Most of this information can be found on the college's internal site through BYU.  There may be another person of authority between your professor and the Dean of the entire college, but the Dean is definitely a good starting point.

I've already found the Dean's Offices for each college below:

BYU College of Business (Marriott School)

BYU College of Education

BYU College of Engineering and Technology

BYU College of Family, Home, and Social Sciences

BYU College of Fine Arts and Communication

BYU College of Humanities

BYU College of International Studies (alright, I'm not a fan of how this college's website is set up at all.  Follow the link and filter the directory by "Administration," you should get the Dean's Office from there.)

BYU College of Life Sciences

BYU College of Nursing

BYU College of Physical and Mathematical Sciences

BYU College of Religious Education

Many of these colleges have smaller departments within them, and it might be more beneficial to narrow in on the departments, depending on who your teacher is.

If you can't get through to the Dean, I would recommend just calling or emailing the college's main office, using the information at the bottom of their websites.

-April Ludgate


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Question #86373 posted on 05/04/2016 2:54 a.m.
Q:

Dear Frère Rubik,

So how do you feel about the retcon of Spider-Man's marriage to Mary Jane?

--Axe Cop

A:

Dear Axey,

So, really, I don't feel too qualified to comment on the whole thing. "One More Day" happened before I started getting into comics. I mean, I've been a Spider-Man fan since I was a kid, but I didn't have access to any real comics until I came here to BYU in 2011, and that was years after the Peter/MJ split happened. Since then, I've followed a few Spider-Man story arcs; some have been really good, some have been really bad (I'm looking at you, "Ends of the Earth"). It's hard to say whether or not the stories would have been improved or worsened if Peter and Mary Jane were still married; some probably wouldn't have happened at all. 

So, on one hand, I think a lot of really good Spider-Man stories have come in the time since OMD, and those might not have been possible if Peter and MJ hadn't split up. On the other hand, I really like Mary Jane as a character. She's independent, and yet incredibly supportive of Peter. She understands the enormous responsibility he feels to help others, and so doesn't get upset when that responsibility often comes before her (obviously, there are exceptions to this, but I feel that, as a whole, this is how she feels).

So, in the end, I guess I'm sort of neutral about the whole thing.

-Frère Rubik just noticed he started every new paragraph with the word "so." Did you?


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Question #86368 posted on 05/03/2016 9:26 p.m.
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Dear 100 Hour Board,

My wife and I are currently still on our respective families' cell phone plans, but we are looking to start on our own plan this summer and also purchasing new phones.

What's the best way to shop around for something like this? All of the special deals, offers, etc. get me confused. Do you have any recommendations for carriers or cell phones?

As far as cell phones go, I have an iPhone 4 which is starting to have problems, and my wife still has one of the old flip phones from back when cell phones became popular. It seems that we would be satisfied if we found a phone that meets only a few conditions:

(1) Functions as a phone (text, call, etc.) Also, I appreciate the way Smartphones do group messaging.
(2) Decent Camera
(3) Navigation app (maps)

Thanks for your wisdom.

-Sorry Charlie

A:

Dear Doctor,

I really like my Moto G. It has a pretty decent camera and it's the most unlocked of all of the Android phones, meaning that it just comes with the Android operating system and not all of the extraneous stuff of other Android phones. It also functions as a phone (obviously), and can do group messaging as well. Plus, it has Google Maps (or you could use something like Waze).

-Tally M.


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Question #86370 posted on 05/03/2016 9:26 p.m.
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Dear 100 Hour Board,

Has anyone on the board graduated from Bingham High School, or is this a one-sided high school rivalry dominated forum?

-How's Dallin?

A:

Dear ayatollah khomeni,

I don't think any of us really care too much about beating down on Bingham, but now you mention it...

GO WEST HIGH DON'T LOSE ALL THE SPORTS THAT'S WHAT I'M TALKIN' ABOUT!!!!

Suerte,

--Ardilla Feroz

A:

Dear Ardilla,

I believe you left out a word in that final cheer. Here, let me fix that for you...

GO WEST JORDAN HIGH DON'T LOSE ALL THE SPORTS THAT'S WHAT I'M TALKIN' ABOUT!!!!

-Spectre


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Question #86265 posted on 05/03/2016 9:21 p.m.
Q:

Dear The Marauders,

Finals are over and gone! Would you go find some treasure to celebrate and report back with pictures?

-Otto Didact

A:

Dear Otto,

Prickles, left all alone in her apartment post-finals, decided to look for treasure.

Where on earth would treasure be in her apartment though?

It probably wouldn't be in her shoes...

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Nope.

How about under her bed?

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Nothing. Absolutely nothing.

Under her new couch?

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Still nothing!

Exasperated, she checked in the oven, only to find...

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Nothing!

So, Prickles finally checks the freezer and finds...

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Ice cream! That's an awesome treasure.

Prickles, out.

-The Maruaders


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Question #86369 posted on 05/03/2016 8:18 p.m.
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Dear 100 Hour Board,

I have to write an op-ed next week and I need help with a topic! so...

What is something you hope would change at BYU or Provo in general? could be about the culture or a certain rule or really anything! Thanks!

-just trying to pass writing 150

A:

Dear you,

An op-ed about the rape victim situation would be timely.

I personally would write about the ban on unusual hair colors, because I think it's totally stupid.

Love,

Luciana

A:

Dear Fresh-times,

Missions for women. I feel like this problem will never stop. 

Cheers,

The Lone Musketeer


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Question #86360 posted on 05/03/2016 6:12 p.m.
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Dear 100 Hour Board,

BYU is doing impressive archaeological work in Petra, Jordan! Go BYU!!!!! When I went to BYU, Dr. David Johnson was in charge of the digs and research conducted in Petra, but his emphasis/project was different. Is he not involved anymore? If so, why not? Did he retire?

I know that Dr. Finlayson's original work was in Syria, but due to ISIS, she could no longer do research there. It makes sense she would join the BYU Petra project, but did she become the dig director? Did she succeed Dr. Johnson?

-Bones & Butterfly

A:

Dear B&B,

Though none of us have direct experience with these programs in the anthropology department here at BYU, I was able to get more information from the faculty website for the department. Yes, Dr. Finlayson is a director in a Petra project. As you mentioned, it seems like there are multiple projects going down in Petra. Her bio on the website says she directs the Ad-Deir Monument and Plateau Project in Petra. 

As for Dr. Johnson, he is not retired (as he's teaching awesome courses like Human Osteology this coming Fall, according to the registrar). His bio says he is directing the Wadi Mataha Project in Petra. Wow, lots of projects.

And finally, as for why the change of scene for the two, I'm not exactly sure. My expertise of archaeological digs and such ends here. My apologies. I'd consider shooting either/both of them an email, as they'd be able to give you more specific details on their projects, and will probably be pleased to hear about your interest in their work!

Cheers,

The Lone Musketeer


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Question #86366 posted on 05/03/2016 3:12 p.m.
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Dear 100 Hour Board,

When do we find out if we received a scholarship for Fall/Winter semester?

-Brendon

A:

Dear Doctor,

Typically at the beginning of May, so you might have found out by the time this posts.

-Tally M.

A:

Dear Brendon,

I received my notification on May 2nd, so you've probably found out by now. Congratulations (I hope)!

-Frère Rubik


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Question #86328 posted on 05/03/2016 2:12 p.m.
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Dear 100 Hour Board,

Is the LDS Church doing anything to help Puerto Rico?

https://www.youtube.com/user/LastWeekTonight

-My Name Here

A:

Dear you,

I assume that the Church's humanitarian and welfare systems are working in Puerto Rico, as well as any areas that face problems with poverty. However, the root of the issues in Puerto Rico are going to require government action, such as i.e. debt restructuring, which isn't within what the Church does. The Church can't just pay a hospital's electric bill, for example. Those problems will either be fixed through debt relief that allows the Puerto Rican government to fund essential services, or the problems will not be fixed and Puerto Rico will have to deal with years of extreme austerity measures to come out of the financial hole. 

As long as the austerity measures are in place, I assume that the Church will do what it can to provide humanitarian relief where needed, but I'm not aware of a specific call to action when it comes to Puerto Rican aid.

If any readers know of specific Church initiatives within Puerto Rico, feel free to leave a comment.

-Zedability


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Question #86359 posted on 05/03/2016 1:59 p.m.
Q:

Dear 100 Hour Editors,

Out of the Editors' Choice answers, which one is the choicest?

-Dallin

A:

Dear Dal Pal,

There are so many. I'm going to just list a bunch that I love and then narrow it down. Maybe.

Frere's bed making. I mean, look at the Pikachus!

Sheeb's Fish vs. Bugs. I just love it.

The Book of Adelaide, Chapter 1. I was a probie at the time so I felt like I was getting some stage time when she wrote this.

TEN's more than 10 reasons why video games are beneficial. It just fills my soul with joy.

Tally's new hymns. Because music is great.

Tally's and Vienna's scale of attractiveness according to scents. Not going to lie, I've referred to this several times.

Tally's Guide to Cheap College Eating. Every freshman should get a copy of this. And every college student. And every adult, basically.

M.O.D.A.Q.'s very original story. It inspires me to be a better writer.

Vienna's list of stuff to do in Provo. If you're bored over the summer and don't know what to do, just check the list.

Beds on campus. We all need them.

Haleakala's self-debate concerning immigration. It's so informative and you feel like Haleakalabama could convince you of either side of the debate.

I still can't get over Auto Surf's Cabbage bra poem.

I don't even know how yayfulness made the maps in finding the furthest location in the US from a Temple but it was amazing.

Concorde's HUGE answer about the Harry Potter world without Harry Potter. Did you know that answer has 12455 words? Or that it takes up 21 pages in a regular Word document in 11 point font with double spaces between paragraphs and single space inside paragraphs? I don't think I've written anything that long for college (on my own, group projects don't count) and she didn't even get college credit for it. Go Concorde.

OK, I need to stop. There are so many Editor's choice questions that I want to link here (like Ardilla's Pidgeon adventures or HFAC's Fishwasher or liver cleansing) but I can't go through all 45 pages of them because I would end up putting most of them on here. But I still haven't answered your question.

So without further ado, the choicest Editor's Choice answer of all is..

...

...

...

...

Foreman's and Commander Keen's journey to the see what that one dude was doing on the corner of Walmart. It epitomizes the Board in that it was a simple question that was answered with a journey and told humorously in scripture wording. Also, it has the most upvotes out of all the questions, and always will because I'm putting a link to it here so new writers will read it and (probably) upvote it and I bet a large number of those who upvoted that question no longer read the Board so they can't vote for new questions. 

-Spectre


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Posted on 05/03/2016 1:18 p.m. New Correction on: #86363 Dear 100 Hour Board Married/Engaged or in Serious Dating Relationship Folk, Pop Quiz!!! How many of ...
Question #86363 posted on 05/03/2016 8:36 a.m.
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Dear 100 Hour Board Married/Engaged or in Serious Dating Relationship Folk,

Pop Quiz!!!

How many of you have your spouse/fiance proof read all your academic work before you turn them in to be graded (or something similar)? Or you do it for your spouse/fiance on a consistent basis? My friend was telling me how he had his wife read everything before officially submitting a paper, and she significantly contributed to the quality of his writing. I noticed my roomie's fiance did that too. Is this a fairly common phenomenon? I need to get married... That was a joke, Luciana, I wouldn't get married for that reason. ;)

-Liquid Paper

A:

Dear Lilly,

I read Greg's stuff sometimes, but only if it's something he's been stressing out about. I didn't really have a paper-intensive semester so I didn't have a reason for him to read much of my stuff. However, I doubt I'll ask him to very often, as I tend not to read through my own work. Oops.

-Adelaide 

A:

Dear White Out,

By the time we got married, Andy and I were both very far along in our majors.  His major was physics, meaning that he wrote very few academic papers, and when he did, they would mostly consist of formulas and theories, so formatting was not a primary concern.

My major of secondary education requires much more writing.  However, Andy is not much help because (a), the things I have to write about are uninteresting to him (and to myself, most of the time), and (b), as stated earlier, he doesn't have very many chances to hone his writing skills within his own major, so he's not much help when he can stay awake through my papers.

If he had more practice and we both had more interesting majors, I'm sure we'd read more of what each other writes.

Alas, I can barely get Andy to read what I write on the Board.

-April Ludgate

A:

Dear Kumbali, 

I did once when he was concerned about a certain point, but Significant Surf is actually a much better writer than I am, so it just doesn't come up that much. On my part, I haven't had to write a lot of essays lately, and I tend to try to get things done quickly when I do. I have asked him to confirm that I'm funny on a few Board answers, though (It started with "Hey, what do you think of this?" and now it's more like "Validate me validatemethisisfunnyright?"). 

-Auto Surf


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Question #86361 posted on 05/03/2016 7 a.m.
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Dear 100 Hour Board,

I knew we had a series of lymph nodes throughout our bodies, but I hadn't realize that they were on our elbows (cubical). Can you show me a picture of normal/healthy cubical lymph nodes and a picture of abnormal/swollen cubical lymph nodes?

Do most people have two bumps on their elbows?

What would cause only the cubical lymph nodes (on both arms) to be swollen, but not the main ones (such as neck and under arm)?

-Hypochondriac

A:

Dear Hilly,

Here is a picture of inflamed epitrochlear (elbow) lymph nodes. As you can see, they're really only visible when there is a very big infection.

Most people do have two bumps on their elbows because of the underlying bone structure. As you can see in this picture, there is the obvious elbow bump and the bump on the side (in the diagram, it's coming straight out of the picture and there is a little notch).

As for your last question, I doubt this would happen. Inflamed elbows are pretty rare, and I think you'd definitely see some more swelling throughout your body. If it's really a concern, as your 'nym would suggest, I would speak to a doctor, since we aren't really qualified to comment on things of this nature beyond what we can find with a Google or library search.

Good luck!

-Adelaide 


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